So I erased and restored my phone again and again each time grabbing another list, starting with most important. It took over a couple hours each time, but I think I recovered what I wanted. Which is good, because the last time I tried my little bit of magic didn't work and the notes appeared right away as the "recovered" file.
What I learned from this...1.apple tech support tried very hard to help. They were pleasant and spent hours with me. 2. I got lucky, stumbling on a recovery option. 3. I learned from the tech guy that if you have an important note email it to yourself as a extra backup. Because even with automatic cloud backups things can run amuck. 4. Sometimes you just have to be brave and try drastic measures...I.e. erase and restore .
In the end I lost a little data, a couple of pictures, and levels of the gameI was playing. But i found my missing notes and didn't seem to lose any contact information. So not to bad of an outcome.
Thank heavens I took the chance with erase and restore.